This is just something for a friend - you know who you are ;)If you want to find a life partner... you need to be happy with who you are. If you're not happy and feel desperate etc...you either turn people away, or attract the wrong types of people.
You don't want to be one of those people who has an imaginary "red light signal" to every person of the opposite sex you see!
Why don't you spend some time learning WHO YOU ARE. Who you are when nobody is looking. What makes up YOU? What would make you feel "complete" as a single person?
Because once you are happy in who YOU are, you don't NEED somebody else to make you feel happy about yourself... what happens is the right person will come along, and you will COMPLIMENT each other :) Neither of you should rely on the other to make you happy. You should both be happy in yourselves, and then when you meet you will be even happier, because there is no co-dependency.
So, in conclusion... learn to be happy as a single person. Be VERY AWARE of who you are attracted to and make sure you don't repeat past mistakes... don't look for a person who 'needs' attention and love... look for a person who doesn't "need" you. But to do that, you must not "need" them.
Spend some time with God...he will show you who you are. But don't give up!
You have many good qualities...sometimes you just need to polish them up, or learn to let go... or just learn to like who you are :) And most importantly...from observation ;) don't give your heart away to just anybody ;) The right person for you won't need you to make them feel complete, or even just happy. Its NOT your job to be the one who spends all their time "cheering up" friends. If they can't be happy without you dropping everything for them, then they're too dependent on you. THAT is something to be VERY WARY about.
All the best! :)
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